Of self-centredness
In this post, I am going to talk about self-centredness and its purpose in life.
Many people perceive "self centreness" is an ugly trait, a necessary evil to some. When we talk about selfishness, we think of it as a pest, a good for nothing roach that deserves to be eliminated. However, it is the way of life things are run. How is that so? Self-centredness is key to succeeding in life because:
#1: Only you know yourself best.
Isnt that very true? When people hurl at you comments, such as "You're dumb!" "You'll never make it!", only you will know the true validity of that statement. Only you yourself know the little quirks and funny habits you've got. The rest all are judgements by other people. Similarly, we dont only much about other people. Hence, we use whatever exterior feature we can to make as accurate a judgement as possible - looks, grades, habits, movements, tone of voice, sex, content of topic often talked about, clothing, money, etc. While some conformation to society convention is always necessary, one would be in deep trouble if one relies on others opinions all the time! Have you ever made people whom you think are weird or make surprising moves? Why is that so? Because you dont know what is he thinking at that time! In short, your best friend is possibly yourself.
#2: Realism.
We dont operate in a world where there is unlimited time and resources. We cant solve of all the worlds' problems even though we would like to. That is why different countries and associations are formed - to tackle problems specific to their nature. So therefore the best person to deal with a problem is - yourself. If you had a problem with people, dont mix with these people for goodness sake. If you had a problem with studying, dont study or use different techniques to do it!
Hence, there is really nothing wrong in being selfish. However, the difference being selfishness and self-centredness is responsibility and reciproality. Have you seen how a baby works? When it has no food, it cries. When it has wet diapers, it wails. When it shits, it screams. And when it doesnt like the person holding it, it burst into tears again. WAAAAHH!!!
However, as we grow up, we learn the laws of reciproality. Do not undo to others what you dont want to be undo to. What you treat others is to what others treat you back. You learn to be responsible, be accountable for only yourself. If you dont, you suffer the laws of responsibility - punishment. Punishment can take place in many forms - boycotting, military conflict, gossip, lack of friends, scolding, etc. There is a term for irresponsible old people. Its called "spoilit" or "immature". That is the difference between selfish and self-centred people. Self-centred people are accountable people.They view problems from a detached point of view and take suitable actions to solve it. Selfish people are Not. They use emotions to solve problems. Sometimes, it gets solved. Most of the time, it doesnt. But selfish people still do it anyways. I am self-centred.
Have a nice day! :)
Many people perceive "self centreness" is an ugly trait, a necessary evil to some. When we talk about selfishness, we think of it as a pest, a good for nothing roach that deserves to be eliminated. However, it is the way of life things are run. How is that so? Self-centredness is key to succeeding in life because:
#1: Only you know yourself best.
Isnt that very true? When people hurl at you comments, such as "You're dumb!" "You'll never make it!", only you will know the true validity of that statement. Only you yourself know the little quirks and funny habits you've got. The rest all are judgements by other people. Similarly, we dont only much about other people. Hence, we use whatever exterior feature we can to make as accurate a judgement as possible - looks, grades, habits, movements, tone of voice, sex, content of topic often talked about, clothing, money, etc. While some conformation to society convention is always necessary, one would be in deep trouble if one relies on others opinions all the time! Have you ever made people whom you think are weird or make surprising moves? Why is that so? Because you dont know what is he thinking at that time! In short, your best friend is possibly yourself.
#2: Realism.
We dont operate in a world where there is unlimited time and resources. We cant solve of all the worlds' problems even though we would like to. That is why different countries and associations are formed - to tackle problems specific to their nature. So therefore the best person to deal with a problem is - yourself. If you had a problem with people, dont mix with these people for goodness sake. If you had a problem with studying, dont study or use different techniques to do it!
Hence, there is really nothing wrong in being selfish. However, the difference being selfishness and self-centredness is responsibility and reciproality. Have you seen how a baby works? When it has no food, it cries. When it has wet diapers, it wails. When it shits, it screams. And when it doesnt like the person holding it, it burst into tears again. WAAAAHH!!!
However, as we grow up, we learn the laws of reciproality. Do not undo to others what you dont want to be undo to. What you treat others is to what others treat you back. You learn to be responsible, be accountable for only yourself. If you dont, you suffer the laws of responsibility - punishment. Punishment can take place in many forms - boycotting, military conflict, gossip, lack of friends, scolding, etc. There is a term for irresponsible old people. Its called "spoilit" or "immature". That is the difference between selfish and self-centred people. Self-centred people are accountable people.They view problems from a detached point of view and take suitable actions to solve it. Selfish people are Not. They use emotions to solve problems. Sometimes, it gets solved. Most of the time, it doesnt. But selfish people still do it anyways. I am self-centred.
Have a nice day! :)
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